Learning from the Premier Sex Therapist in the  Philippines, Dr. Margie Holmes. Her take on Cancer is that it is not a death sentence—it depends on how you look at it. Even in the throes of chemotherapy and well-meaning friends and family telling you what to do, you can still be master of your ship. research about your condition, continue to interphase and grow by reaching out to people, challenging your negative thoughts, become aware of your feelings of guilt and settle things out with friends. You are not your Cancer. You are still yourself. Cancer is just the new visitor that happened to come passing through your door.